My husband and I exchanged our wedding vows in the summer of 1988, after about a year of being together. We just took our vows together by the lake and we were married in our hearts back then. And finally on Dec 28th, 1993 we got married on paper because it was the wish of his grandmother, who asked us too in order to make it “legal” so to speak for two people and the great spirit.
We had made a promise to his grandmother, so we followed through even though she passed away the same month we got married.
It happened on Lake Superior, in our hometown of Ontonagon, at the trailer, by the lake, on the land of my adopted parents.
That evening with the lake and the sun was beginning to set, his parents, brother and wife were preoccupied and were unaware of what we were up to. We were very good at keeping it hidden from them, it was our secret. Supper was cooking over the flames of the big fire pit. And while we were talking about other things, it just seemed right. It was then we both decided that the time was right to share our hearts and Love, right where we were the happiest. He gave me a promise ring and though I can no longer wear it, I still keep it with me.
Though we had bonded before, it was now real in the eyes of the lord and for ourselves and no matter what any other person said or thought, we were married in our eyes and that of mother earth. Even though he’s not native he believes this teaching and many of the ways of others that are native. Bill has seen the “sun dance” and a few other things he wouldn’t get to see thru his other friends in his childhood and teenage years. Being Native is a part of who we are..it is only fitting that we shared our hearts in a native way.
In 1928, Henry Morrow and Marie Dakota were also married by Indian Custom, prior to this, there were several marriages that took place by our Morrow Ancestors. Sometimes these were private, while at other times they were very celebrated.